It is my belief that the longer a person is unable to repair broken attachment patterns and insecure attachment behaviors, the more likely it is that they will find these patterns and behaviors replicated in their adult relationships. Until a person suffering from relational trauma has the experience of a relational therapy in which their therapist is the container, and they are contained, they are likely to find themselves in recurring relationships ranging from unhelpful to harmful. This remains notable as the need for reform and repair of broken attachment has cyclical repercussions, both for the individual, and their potential children.
I bring a relational perspective to clients of all ages and presentations. I hold strongly to the belief that as social creatures, people require relational healing. When working with children and couples, this might look like helping caregivers and partners to increase relational healing in their own families
I am deeply passionate about working with people of all ages and gender identities, in all types of bodies and lifestyles. I employ a collaborative therapeutic style and engage with a number of different modalities to find the best approach to working with each individual, family, and couple in my care. In addition to having a Masters degree in Clinical Psychology, I also have a Masters degree in Philosophy, which I believe somewhat uniquely positions me to caring for people experiencing existential woes and struggling with many of the overwhelming anxieties of modern life. Therapy can be an incredible channel for this kind of healing.
I provide therapy in English and Farsi. I am seeing clients in person in San Jose or online via video.
Lillian Hayatghaib, AMFT #139236
Supervised by Lara Willing, LMFT #93111
Employed by Lara Willing/Therapy for Every Body